Is this the quick fix I've been looking for? Our programs are work programs. You only get out of them what you put into them. Sure you can just go through the motions, but you would only be cheating yourself. Our core program is seven weeks long, after completing the seven weeks people often choose to continue with additional parts of the program because they are having such amazing results. If you're asking if people have success with this program, then the answer would be, heck yes!
I've tried counseling and support groups in the past and they didn't work, How is this program different? Great! I'm encouraged for you that you keep trying to find the right fit for yourself to process your grief. The Grief Recovery Method is a work program, meaning we don't just sit and talk about what has happened. You have homework assignments each week and when you come back we discuss them. Each builds on the next as we discover all the things left incomplete for you by your loss, all your hopes dreams and expectations that never got to happen. After you have identified all the former, we teach you tools to not only process your grief but also to have apply to all your relationships thus improving your quality of life. Imagine living without regrets, wouldn't that feel extraordinary?!
What if taking this program upsets me more? It can seem scary when you go to do something you've never done before. I encourage you to do this anyway. There will be difficult days, and days you don't want to come back, that is when you need this program the most- come back anyway. It may be upsetting to recall your losses, but that upset will walk alongside you forever if you allow it to by not processing your grief. Ultimately it's up to you to choose, a lifetime of upsets or a few months of your time to do the work and heal your heart.
Why am I embarrassed that I need help? Common in grief we have been taught myths that are unhelpful, often times hurtful and just aren't true. "Be strong for others" falls under that category. We learned from a young age that you can't show your feelings or that you must present "strong" for someone in your life. When you're untruthful in your communications and feelings the healing process slows or even becomes stagnant. Isn't it nice to know you are not the only person who has these feelings and that you are not alone in them?
Is it expensive? Expensive is relative to the eye of the beholder. If you want change, if you want to work through your grief and not have it be a weight on your shoulders forever, if you know that there is light on the other side of this tunnel but you're not sure how to get there, if you're tired of feeling this way or if you know that this is something you have struggled with for a long time and you're ready for help, then no, this program is not expensive when it comes to the quality of life you want to live. If this is something you're doing to please someone else, if you just want to skate by and not do the work, then yes this would be an overpriced way to waste your time.
Why do I need a coach for my grief? That's a great question! You may have noticed that all professionals in sports have coaches, or that your most successful business people have coaches or maybe some of your best friends have a mentor that guides them in life. Maybe you haven't noticed any of that. The reality is that we need help to push ourselves and grow. We need someone in our ear telling us that the next step is possible. We even need someone to call us out on our crap, when we believe the lies that are in our heads. We need someone to love us, but also to keep pushing us forward. Someone that can see over the next mountain you face and help you build your strength to get there. That is why you need a coach. If you want to stay exactly where you are or if you're looking for a cheerleader, then this is not the program for you.
When can I start? Is it ever too early too soon? It's never too soon to begin grief recovery. When you feel you are ready, that is the perfect time. It will be different for everyone. As for a start date, we only allow 20 people to begin, every other month. That way we can keep our batteries charged for you and be present for each and every moment we are together. Your healing matters to us.